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Every girl is different--if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to get a girl as there are girls, so let's go over some basic rules that'll win over any girl worth getting.

每个女孩都不一样，要是她们都一样的话，你肯定没理由就只对这个感兴趣，你说是吧？世上有多少女孩，咱就有多少让她们喜欢咱的招儿。我们先来缕一缕一些基本思路，然后你就能战无不胜。

Steps 步骤

1. Have your own life. 好好过自己的日子。

If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this is especially important. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Actually, some girls do like that, but usually for all the wrong reasons--either they're insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who like to dominate guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interests, and goals.

这一步对"想和她先做朋友"的同胞们尤其重要。姑娘们不喜欢没有自己生活的男生，更不喜欢像塑料包装一样黏糊着她们的家伙。虽说现实中有些女孩儿喜欢被男生黏着，但她们喜欢被黏的理由都不太正常：要么就是她没安全感，需要别人的注意；要么就是控制狂，总想操纵咱老爷们。除非你想学周瑜打黄盖，她愿打你愿挨，否则你最好投入更多精力去搞好自己的友谊、兴趣和人生理想。

2. Make an impression. 留给她印象。

There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.

没有放之四海皆准的做法。也许你做的事情能让这个女孩回味，却让另一个反胃。最好的方法就是做你自己。给她瞧瞧你的绝活，或者你引以为豪的卓尔不群的才华。这可不只会叫她对你印象良好，你也会因此信心倍增。

3. Flirt. 巧妙地调情。

When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact. Smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or you've got something stuck to your teeth. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment.

遇着你喜欢的女孩时，蜻蜓点水一般和她来个眼神接触。微笑。制造一个轻松的对话。最重要一点：别紧张。别把她当成你的梦中女神；别去想笑话讲冷了会怎样；哪怕牙缝里塞了东西也不要紧。重要的是享受和她，和这个与你生命产生交集而又魅力非凡的她，你来我往两相交流的过程。活在当下才是王道。

4. Talk to her. 对话。

Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask her what she really loves in life and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Most importantly, listen.

告诉她你生命的热情所在，告诉她是什么事情能让你从床上一跃而起去追求。也问问她对什么感到兴奋。展示给她你积极的人生态度。即便你倒了一天霉，也要微笑豁达着面对。记住，认真地倾听她说的话。

5. Be romantic. 要浪漫。

The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know--better than anyone else in the world--what makes her unique.

浪漫的代表性事物都老套无比，它们（玫瑰啊、烛光啊、巧克力什么的）不会帮你在玩浪漫的路上走得更远。好好想想怎么才能真正点燃你的她。你得学会发现使她的独特之处，为她找出只有她能欣赏的东西。什么是她特别的（或者秘密的）的兴趣；什么使她着魔；什么让她成天做着白日梦？在她购物、聊天、看电影时，什么东西叫她双眼放光？你得注意这些！浪漫就是承认一个人是特别的。浪漫意味着你懂她，比别人都懂，懂她与众不同。

6. Break the touch barrier. 碰碰她，别害怕。

There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

我们有很多法子能叫咱正大光明毫不猥琐的碰一个女孩。她穿衣服时，为她擎着外套；在她走颠簸路时，伸出你绅士的手；一起走时，为她留一个臂弯，这样她才好挽着你。还有，你能勇敢的牵着她在人群中开路，你能冷天帮她搓手。这些都能让你俩走得更近，却不会惹她生厌。当然了，要是察觉她对身体接触感到别扭，你还是住手为妙。否则，她就是很享受这亲密关系了。

7. Compliment her. 表扬她。

If you really like this girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt), make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills.

你若真喜欢她，你会喜欢她的许多地方，为什么不叫她知道呢？如果她有了小小的变化或新鲜之处（发型啦，指甲油啦，衬衫啦），你得夸一夸。你的赞美越独特，效果越好，除非她很肤浅。大部分女孩子都喜欢那些让他们觉着自己与众不同的赞美，而不是什么一堆一堆的女孩儿都有的特点。如果你想表扬她的外表，尽量原创。如果你会赞扬她的性格或者才能就更好了。

8. Make her laugh. 逗她开心叫她笑

Telling jokes or funny stories is the classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that'll make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not dangerous or illegal, of course).

讲笑话或者趣闻轶事无疑是经典的逗乐方法，不过绝不是只有这些办法。找出她最喜欢的喜剧、搞笑片或者肥皂剧，陪她看。要勇敢点，想个滑稽的动作逗她开心。让她准你做些傻事，然后当真去做（当然啦，既不能危险也不能违法~）。

9. Ask her out. 约她出来。

Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you--make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something that you're proud of. Or, express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. Or, just go out for lunch or a cup of coffee and get to know her better.

约她一起去什么地方，或者约她和你一起做些事――确保你俩对此都有兴趣。如果你想的话，向她展示你的世界。带她去个你觉着舒服并且爱去的地方，讲给她在那里你拥有或做过的让你引以为豪的事。或者，你让她知道你对她的世界感兴趣。比方说她是个音乐家，那么你问问她许不许你去看她的演出。如果她是搞数学的，向她要她的研究报告和理论读读。或者，简单的，你只需要请她吃个晚餐喝杯咖啡什么的，这样你也能了解她多一点。